photo by Kye Ehrlich
You’ve exchanged the initial flirtatious online messages. Told a few cute childhood stories, graduated to online chatting then took it offline to mobile and sent a few texts after work. You’ve finally set up a date and time to meet in person. You break out your favorite dress. You show your roomie, landlord and even the taxi driver a photo of your suitor just in case he decides to make you the subject of a Lifetime movie. You tell the cabbie you’d like Brandi to play you in the movie before arriving at the restaurant. It turns out to be a great restaurant with a great guy and so far great conversation. But is he as into you as you’re into him? Here are 5 signs that indicate that the Magic 8 Ball answer is “very doubtful”.
1. He remarks how “different” you look in person.
You want lovely, beautiful or even better, anything but different. You’re not 2 Chainz. This means you haven’t met his physical expectations. Not to worry maybe you can win him over with your personality. That is if you want such a shallow guy.
2. He seems enthralled by the restaurant décor.
If he’s looking everywhere around the restaurant except at you we may have a problem. If you can’t get his undivided attention for an hour and a half then you can forget about a second date.
3. He doesn’t give you any.
Of his meal that is, sharing your meal is very intimate and if the food is delicious it really sets the mood. If he doesn’t even offer you a hot french fry then that’s just cold.
4. He brings up his ex-girlfriend and/or other dates he has lined up.
Don’t think he’s being coy or playing hard to get. Guys don’t do that, but they do throw our not so subtle hints, such as this one, that you shouldn’t expect a text tomorrow.
5. No Candy Crushing
If he wants to skip dessert and doesn’t follow up with “Oh there’s this great café around the corner where we can grab coffee.” Then it’s game over, but atleast you didn’t lose your life.